Help clients find their 'why' before the 'what'
Connecting a behaviour goal to a deeper personal value gives it staying power that surface-level goals — lose weight, get fit — never have.
Why this matters
Most clients arrive with outcome goals: "I want to lose 10kg", "I want to run a 5k", "I want to get stronger." These goals are useful starting points, but they're fragile. When motivation dips, surface goals don't generate the emotional energy needed to push through.
Values-based motivation does. By asking why the goal matters — and then asking why that matters — coaches can help clients access deeper, more durable sources of motivation: being present with family, proving something to themselves, managing stress, feeling confident.
In practice
Client: "I want to lose weight." Coach: "What would losing weight give you?" Client: "I'd feel better about myself." Coach: "What does feeling better about yourself make possible?" Client: "I'd be more willing to do things with my kids... I've been saying no to things because I feel embarrassed about how I look." Now the coach has a real 'why'. The weight loss becomes a path to connection and presence, not just a number on a scale.
Source: Deci, E.L. & Ryan, R.M. (2000). The 'what' and 'why' of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.
Try it today
In your next session, after a client states their goal, ask "What would achieving that give you?" three times in succession (each time going deeper). Notice how the answers change.
Make it a habit
Add a "values ladder" section to your initial client intake form, with prompts to help clients articulate what's at stake for them personally.
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